Do you have a parent, close friend, or relative whose drinking upsets you?

Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?

Does it seem as though every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?

Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking or what's happening in your home?

Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?

Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?

Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares what happens to you?

Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?

Do you think the drinker's behaviour is caused by you, other members of your family, or rotten breaks in life?

Do you make threats such as "If you don't stop drinking, fighting, etc., I'll run away?"

Do you make such promises about behaviour such as "I'll get better school marks, go to church or keep my
room clean" in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting stop?

Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved you she or he would stop drinking?

Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into saying, "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?

Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?

Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?

Are mealtimes frequently delayed because of the drinker?

Have you considered calling the police because of drinking behaviour?

Have you refused dates out of fear or anxiety?

Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?

Do you ever treat people (teachers schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for
drinking too much?

If you have answered yes to some of these questions, Alateen may help you. You can contact Al-Anon or Alateen by looking in your local telephone directory or by writing to: